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So i was telling my colleagues what i was thinking while driving this morning..
why do men at the first stage of courting, they behave like they never had enough of the girl they are chasing. like they don't wanna miss anything or loosing any precious moments with the girl.
wake-up in the morning - text, want to bathe - text, want to eat - text, want to shit - text, going into car to work - text, driving stuck in jam -text, arrived at work - text, going back home - text, sleeping - text,
Some might even send cute lovey dovey emails, or send gifts.. while dating/walking together wanna hold hands n don wanna let go
when wanna see movies or eat they insist on paying
few months down the road, tadaaaaaaaaaaa.. everything MALAS already, text can be counted using 10 fingers, emails and gifts sometimes could be non-existent
excuse: too tired, too busy, caught up with something, BUTTTTT. last time bleh plak??????? go chill at mamak with frens boleh plakkk, play games and football bleh plak??..
why? i want answers from the guys, why? do u find that the girl is not important anymore? she's yours now and you have no worries to attend to other things? heloo, girls needs attention, ALL The attention they could get, beware, some girls might run if u don give them the attention.. if u can't maintain the same affection that u have given at the earlier stage or relationship then don't give so much at the beginning. girls might think that u dont love them, dont miss them, dont need them anymore, or playing their hearts like a fool
Girls pulak, when goin on first few dates, woww, dressed up like hell, so prim n proper while eating, laughing pon cover mouth with hands, eat so slow, sometimes dont finish
haha. when talking/discussing bout something, alwasy smiling and eager to discuss n listen, almost without fail always tend to follow as instructed
few months down the road, dressing up pon lazy, eat like pig, fart pon tak cover
each time talking/discussing - screaming as a way for disapproving any instructions. wateverla. HELP ME guys, i don't have much feedback on this issues from guys
AHHAHAHAH
married couples .. haih. first few moments living together like heaven, do everything together, arrange furnitures, bathe, cooking, cleaning, ironing, sleeping must cuddle
money no problem sharing, everything organise and calculate together, some might even have their budget planned out
few months down the road, pushing each other to complete the chores, arguing who did wat the last time and whose turn was it now, cuddling is like so hard cause partner is hot or too tired to cuddle
money is an issue, who spent more is drying up the dough, buying unnecessary things is a big major ISSUE
my point is, what i'm trying to say is.. why do relationships turn sour, boring, fall apart? why only at the beginning we would want to do everything nice for our partner, trying our best to please them... never fail to text, e-mail, call and tell them u miss n love them
why after so many months or years, all the tiny little details that you didn't bother or didn't mind at first are now such a big fuss?, sometimes its not fair for the other partner that is willing to keep the same pace in the relationship, who is willing to do anything to keep the spark ongoing if the other doesn't see or appreciate it
i've been told, in the first 10 years of marriage, life wouldn't be easy, its the biggest challenge/dugaan any married couple would face.... if only for 10 months u people can't make it, think bout it
what i've been told, communication is important, team-work? haha, tolak ansur in English apa?, keep the love ongoing, keep the spark strong, if after only 6 months pon u dont have the heart to do anything to make things right n nice why bother getting married?
my god, talked crap
p/s: am not referring to my current relationship ya, dont Speku sesuka hati n go gossiping behing my back! just a thought
